Food for Thought

I know this isn't my typical type of posting, but this thought came to mind and I figured I'd share it before I forgot about it. Maybe when I am frustrated someday I can read this post and remember this thought. 

Most people say that opposites attract- relationship speaking. Well, when I think about Kasey and I, I tend to disagree. We have all the same hobbies, love spending time together, love the same movies, etc.. So how is it, that we follow the norm? Well one big thing comes to mind...romanticism. 

I tend to be very romantic. For instance, every Valentine's Day I spread the holiday out 10 days and I give Kasey a gift every day leading up to Valentine's. It is a TON of work coming up with 10 different ideas every single year. Some of the things I have done are: 101 things I love about you on sticky notes in his room, 52 things I love about you on a set of playing cards, "I wheelie like you" with several toy cars, and many more! It is really fun to see the way that he reacts to all the presents. 

Now on the other hand, Kasey is about as romantic as a pet rock. He grew up with a family that did not display public affection and besides that, he just tends to have no romantic bone in his body. He has been romantic about three times in our 2 1/2 year relationship, and those moments were surely treasured. But, I learned that when I committed my life to someone who's not romantic I needed to accept that and learn to make the best out of it. I don't expect flowers when I come home from work, cards for no reason, or cards at all really. It just isn't the way he is. 

Now I am sure some of you who are reading this are feeling terrible for me because I have made this sound like some sort of tragedy, but to be honest it really isn't. You see, me being overly romantic and him being not romantic at all complete the need for romanticism in our relationship. There is a very delicate balance. 

I do, however, pray for strength to continue to keep my end of the deal. Because if I am not romantic, what will happen to our relationship? I have noticed that when I am slacking on my end Kasey steps up on his end, but I would never want to see what happens when neither of us contribute.

 I enjoy making dinner for him and making him small DIY gifts! :) In fact, I hope he doesn't read this, but we will be together for 1000 days on October 1, 2014. I can't wait to plan a little party for him. He'll come home from work to dinner, a cake, decorations, and a small gift and have no clue why. It's things like this that excite me! 

So I leave with this...if you have noticed that you and your significant other struggle with a difference, find ways to compliment that void that they might have in their life with an over abundance in yours. If he/she is the jealous type, balance the equation by not being jealous at all. It is interesting how a balanced relationship, or the best effort a person can do to have a balanced relationship, can make life so much easier! Good luck!